Understand who you are and what you want
Inclusive Sex & Intimacy Therapy in Northern Virginia
Supporting individuals, couples, and all relationship structures with sex and sexuality.
What if your sexuality didn’t have to come with shame, confusion, or self-doubt?
Sex isn’t one-size-fits all. Sex can be messy, beautiful, and uniquely you. And you deserve support that understands that.
You might be questioning your sexuality, who you’re attracted to, what turns you on, or what you’ve been told you’re supposed to want. Maybe sex has always felt confusing, shameful, or hard to talk about. You’ve tried to ignore it, but it keeps coming back with anxiety, doubt, or a sense that something’s missing.
You might wonder if you’re queer, kinky, or somewhere in between but still hear that voice saying, “not enough,” “not real,” “just making it up.” Maybe you’re stuck trying to do sex and relationships the “right” way, even if it means silencing what you really want.
If you’ve gotten used to putting others first or questioning what you really want in intimacy, you’re not alone. Facing your sexuality can feel daunting, particularly when parts of yourself have been kept quiet or locked down.
Your sexuality isn’t a performance, it’s a journey, and it’s yours to define. In this space, there’s no right way to be. Just your way. We’ll go at your pace, with curiosity and compassion.
Sound like you?
You freeze up during intimacy or find yourself unsure how to stay present in your body.
You carry shame from purity culture, trauma, or being told your sexuality was wrong, broken, or “too complicated.”
You’ve rarely, if ever, seen your body, identity, or experiences reflected in mainstream conversations about sex.
You question your sexual identity or desires but worry you’re “not queer enough,” “not kinky enough,” “too late,” or “just making it up.”
Sex feels confusing, stressful, or even irrelevant and you’re tired of pretending it’s fine.
I’m here to help with…
Sexual Identity/Gender Identity
Kink-curious
Ethical Non-monogamy
Sexual Shame & Anxiety
Sexual Trauma
Painful Sex/Pelvic Pain
Erectile or Orgasm Difficulties
Low desire/low libido
Here’s what we’ll do together
Therapy can help you experience greater intimacy with your partners, self, or both.
Create a Safe, Trusting Therapeutic Space: We’ll build a secure, nonjudgmental environment where you feel truly seen, heard, and understood.
Explore How Attachment Influences Your Sexuality: Understand how your early relationships and attachment styles shape your sexual desires, boundaries, and intimacy patterns in adult relationships.
Identify Emotions in Sexual and Intimate Relationships: We’ll uncover fears, anxieties, or past trauma affecting your sexual experiences, helping you develop greater emotional regulation and self-compassion.
Develop Healthy Sexual Communication and Boundaries: Learn how to clearly express your sexual needs, desires, and limits to your partner(s), fostering deeper intimacy and connection.
Heal Relational and Sexual Trauma: Through attachment-informed therapy, we’ll address the impact of trauma on your sexual confidence, pleasure, and relationships to promote recovery and empowerment.
Build Secure, Joyful Sexual Connections: Therapy supports you in creating safe, fulfilling sexual relationships where you can authentically express your sexuality and enjoy intimacy without shame or fear.
At the end of the day, I want you to know:
Sexuality is an expression of and connection with oneself and others.
What we’ll work on
Imagine a life where…
Sex no longer feels awkward, confusing, or like something you have to get through.
You feel grounded, connected, and in control of your body rather than disconnected or unsure.
You feel confident and secure in your sexuality, without shame, doubt, or pressure to be anyone but yourself.
Your relationships feel emotionally rich, sexually satisfying, and deeply pleasurable.
Pleasure is Possible.
Pleasure is possible.
Questions?
FAQs
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Sex therapy is a specialized form of talk therapy that helps individuals and couples address concerns related to sex, intimacy, and relationships. A sex therapist uses open conversation and evidence-based techniques to help clients overcome sexual dysfunction, improve communication, and enhance overall sexual wellness.
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Sex therapy can lead to a more fulfilling sex life and healthier relationships. Key benefits include:
Improved sexual communication and intimacy
Increased sexual confidence and self-awareness
Resolution of issues like low libido, erectile dysfunction, or painful intercourse
Healing from past sexual trauma or shame
Stronger emotional connection with your partner
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Sex therapy can support you with a wide range of sexual concerns, including:
Low or mismatched sexual desire
Difficulty with arousal or orgasm
Pain during sex
Erectile issues
Sexual shame or anxiety
Impact of sexual trauma
Communication about sex in relationships
Questions around identity, orientation, or kink
Navigating sexual changes due to aging, parenting, or illness
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If it has to do with your sexual health, body, identity, or relationships, it belongs in the therapy room.
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You may want to seek sex therapy if:
You experience ongoing sexual performance issues
There’s a lack of sexual desire or compatibility in your relationship
You’re recovering from sexual trauma or emotional pain
You feel anxious, ashamed, or confused about your sexuality
You want to improve intimacy or explore your sexual identity in a supportive environment
Early support can prevent long-term distress and help build a satisfying sex life.
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Not necessarily. Sex therapy is holistic, which means we’ll look at how your sexuality intersects with other parts of your life, relationships, emotions, body image, trauma, and more. Sometimes we spend most of a session talking about sex, and other times it’s just one piece of a bigger conversation.
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Sex therapy is for:
Individuals of all genders and sexual orientations
Couples dealing with sexual dissatisfaction or relationship stress
People experiencing sexual trauma or dysfunction
Anyone exploring their sexuality, gender identity, or emotional intimacy
Whether you’re in a relationship or single, sex therapy can help you develop a healthier connection to your sexuality.
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Not at all. Sex therapy is for anyone who wants to better understand their sexuality, whether you’re sexually active, celibate, questioning, or somewhere in between. There’s no one “right” way to experience sex or intimacy.Item description
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Not at all. Many people come to sex therapy as individuals to explore their own relationship with sex and intimacy. If you are in a relationship and want to include your partner(s), that’s absolutely welcome—but it’s never required.Item description
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No. Sex therapy is strictly a talk-based, non-touch therapeutic process. There is no sexual or physical contact involved between the therapist and the client. Therapists provide a safe, professional space for discussion, education, and mental-emotional support.