Feel Confident and connected
Therapy for Relational Anxiety, Self-Worth, & Attachment Healing
Serving Northern Virginia & DC Metro Area | In-Person in Herndon, VA & Virtual Across Virginia
For the ones who are exhausted from holding it all together and ready to finally come home to themselves.
You’re tired of crumbling under the weight of others expectations.
It’s like you can never take a Breath.
You've spent so long trying to be what everyone else needs that you've lost touch with what you need. The constant monitoring, the mental calculations of how to keep everyone comfortable, the exhaustion of never feeling like you can just be—it's all become too much.
Here's what's really happening: you learned early on that your worth was conditional. That love had to be earned through being easy, accommodating, perfect. So your nervous system developed strategies to keep you safe and connected—people-pleasing, hypervigilance, over-performing.
These strategies worked once. They helped you survive. But now they're leaving you burnt out, resentful toward the people you love most, and completely disconnected from who you actually are. You're stuck performing with a smile on your face until there's nothing left to give.
The anxiety, the self-doubt, the fear of disappointing others—they all make sense in context. And understanding that is where the healing begins.
Sound like you?
You've learned to read the room before you even enter it, scanning for signs of tension or disapproval.
You can advocate fiercely for others but go silent when it's time to speak up for yourself.
After social interactions, you replay every word you said, searching for proof that you messed up or disappointed someone.
Your body tenses when someone says "we need to talk" because you're already bracing for rejection.
You apologize reflexively, even when you've done nothing wrong, because "sorry" feels safer than conflict.
I’m here to help with…
Relationship Anxiety & Fear of Abandonment
Boundaries & Asking for Help
Social Anxiety & Fear of Judgment
Self-Criticism & Negative Self-Talk
Perfectionism & Fear of Failure
People-Pleasing & Over-Functioning
Self-Worth & Belonging
Anxious & Avoidant Attachment Patterns
Here’s what we’ll do together
Therapy can help you feel confident in yourself and your connections.
First, we'll help you understand where these patterns came from. They're not random. Understanding this helps you see yourself with compassion instead of criticism.
Next, we'll make space for what you've been carrying beneath all the anxiety. Maybe it's fear of being left, grief over needs that went unmet, or anger at having to make yourself smaller. Whatever it is, it deserves to be felt and heard, not just managed.
Along the way, you'll learn to notice when you're acting from desire versus fear. We'll practice listening to your body and speaking up for what you actually need.
Over time, you'll build real trust in yourself. Setting boundaries won't feel selfish. Showing up as you are won't feel risky. And your relationships will be built on genuine connection, not constant worry about whether you're enough.
At the end of the day, I want you to know:
You deserve love and connection without earning it, performing for it, or shrinking yourself to keep it.
What we’ll work on
Imagine a life where…
You wake up without that knot of dread in your stomach, no longer running through your mental checklist of who you might have upset.
You say "no" to a request and feel relief instead of guilt. You trust that the relationship can handle your boundaries.
During a disagreement, you stay present instead of shutting down or over-apologizing. You know conflict doesn't mean abandonment.
You share something vulnerable with someone you love and don't spend the next three days analyzing their reaction. You trust that you're enough as you are.
You make decisions based on what you actually want, not on what will keep everyone else comfortable. Your own needs finally matter as much as everyone else's.
You’ve been holding it together for so long.
It's Time to Let Someone Hold Space for You
Questions?
FAQs
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If you're asking this question, you're probably struggling more than you realize. You don't need to be in crisis or have a diagnosis to benefit from therapy. If anxiety is affecting your relationships, your peace of mind, or how you feel about yourself, that's enough. You deserve support, not because you've earned it, but simply because you're struggling.
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That's completely welcome here. Emotions aren't something to apologize for—they're information. Many of my clients worry about being "too much," but therapy is one place where you get to take up space without having to manage anyone else's comfort. You won't be judged for having feelings.
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Sometimes, yes—but not in the way you might fear. As we explore what's underneath your anxiety, you might notice it more acutely at first. This isn't therapy making things worse; it's you becoming more aware of patterns that were always there. We'll move at a pace that feels manageable, and I'll help you build tools to navigate discomfort as it comes up.Item description
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That's actually really common, and we'll work with it together. Many anxious clients worry about disappointing me, apologize excessively, or try to "do therapy right." I won't be offended or frustrated—in fact, noticing these patterns in our relationship is part of the work. Therapy is a safe place to practice showing up authentically without performing.
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It varies based on your goals and how long these patterns have been present. Some clients find relief in a few months, while others work with me longer to create deeper, lasting change in how they relate to themselves and others.
Because I use Emotionally Focused Therapy, we're not just managing symptoms—we're addressing the attachment wounds underneath your anxiety. This often takes time, but the changes tend to be more enduring. You won't white-knuckle your way through life; you'll actually feel different.
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Most clients start with weekly sessions because consistency helps build momentum, especially when working with anxiety and attachment patterns. As you progress, we can shift to biweekly sessions if that feels right. We'll check in regularly about what's working for you.
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Reach out and we will schedule a 20-minute free consult to determine if we are a good fit.