Reclaim Your Sexuality
Inclusive Therapy for Sexual Wellness & Identity Exploration
Serving Northern Virginia & DC Metro Area | In-Person in Herndon, VA & Virtual Across Virginia
For when your body doesn't feel like home, and you're ready to reclaim it.
What if sex didn’t have to feel stressful?
It's like your body won't cooperate, no matter what you try.
You've spent so long trying to figure out what's "wrong" with you. The exhaustion of constantly performing, managing, or hiding. The weight of feeling like you're failing at something that's supposed to feel good.
There's often a reason your body responds this way. When sex, your body, or parts of your identity felt unsafe early on, disconnecting became protection. What helped you survive then is now keeping you stuck, leaving you feeling disconnected, anxious, and scared that being authentic might cost you everything.
You're not broken. Your body makes sense. Your questions make sense. And there's a path forward from here.
Sound like you?
You're carrying questions about your sexual orientation, gender identity, kink interests, or relationship structure, but sharing them feels terrifying.
After sex, you analyze everything you did or didn't do, searching for proof that you failed or disappointed your partner.
You keep parts of your sexuality hidden because the shame of someone knowing feels unbearable.
Your body physically tenses, hurts, or shuts down during intimacy, no matter how much you want to relax into it.
You avoid initiating sex because the pressure to "perform" feels overwhelming, or you go through the motions while feeling completely disconnected.
I’m here to help with…
Low or Absent Sexual Desire
Sexual Identity Exploration (LGBTQ+)
Sexual Trauma & Past Wounds
Performance Anxiety & Pressure
Sexual Shame & Body Image
Kink, BDSM & Non-Monogamy
Mismatched Desire in Relationships
Painful Sex & Body Tension
Here’s what we’ll do together
Therapy can help you feel safe, confident, and free in your sexuality.
First, we'll explore where these patterns came from. Not to assign blame, but to help you see that your body's responses make sense given what you experienced. This understanding brings relief, not more judgment.
Next, we'll create space for what's been beneath the surface. The grief over pleasure you haven't accessed. The fear about exploring your identity. The hurt your body has been holding. We'll let it be felt without needing to fix.
Along the way, you'll learn what genuine desire feels like versus what fear feels like. You'll practice listening to your body's yes and no, and expressing what you need without the panic or shame that usually follows.
Over time, you'll build real trust in your body and your desires. Sex becomes something you want to experience, not something to get through. Your identity becomes something to explore with curiosity, not hide in fear.
At the end of the day, I want you to know:
Intimacy can be joyful, safe, and uniquely yours. No shame, no pressure.
What we’ll work on
Imagine a life where…
Sex feels like something you want to experience, not something you have to get through. Your body relaxes into pleasure instead of tensing up.
You feel confident in your body and your sexuality without needing to look a certain way or perform a certain role. You trust that you're enough as you are.
When you think about your sexual identity you feel curiosity and excitement instead of fear and shame.
You can be vulnerable during intimacy without your mind racing or your body shutting down. You're actually present, connected, and experiencing pleasure.
You communicate what you want and need sexually without apologizing or feeling selfish. Your desires matter, and you know how to express them.
You’re sexuality deserves to exist.
It’s Time to Reclaim What’s Yours
Questions?
FAQs
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If you're struggling with any aspect of your sexuality—whether it's desire, pleasure, pain, shame, identity questions, or feeling disconnected from your body during intimacy—sex therapy can help.
You don't need a formal diagnosis or a severe problem. If sex feels stressful, confusing, or disappointing instead of pleasurable and connected, that's enough.
Common concerns I help with include:
Low or mismatched desire
Pain during sex
Difficulty with arousal or orgasm
Sexual shame, anxiety, or body image concerns
Questions about orientation, gender, kink, or relationship structure
Impact of trauma on sexuality
Feeling disconnected or "not present" during sex
If any of this resonates, you belong here.
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I get it—talking about sex can feel incredibly vulnerable, especially when you're carrying shame about it. Many clients start our first session saying, "I can't believe I'm about to say this out loud."
You don't have to have it all figured out or articulate everything perfectly. We'll go at your pace, and I'll help you find language for what you're experiencing. Nothing you share will shock me or make me think less of you. This is what I'm trained for, and I've heard it all.
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I work with people across the full spectrum of sexual expression—from vanilla to kink, from monogamy to non-monogamy, and everything in between. What feels "weird" to you is likely far more common than you think, and even if it's not, it still deserves space and curiosity.
I'm sex-positive, kink-aware, and LGBTQ+ affirming. My job isn't to judge what you're curious about; it's to help you explore it safely and authentically.
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Not always. Sex therapy is holistic, which means we look at how sexuality intersects with your emotions, relationships, body image, past experiences, and sense of self.
Some sessions focus heavily on sex; others might explore attachment, trauma, or identity. Everything is connected, and we'll follow what's most important for your healing.
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I understand the fear of investing time, money, and emotional energy into something that might not help. Sex therapy isn't magic, but it does work—especially when we address the emotional and relational roots of sexual struggles, not just the physical symptoms.
Some clients notice shifts within a few sessions; others need more time to undo years of shame, trauma, or disconnection. We'll check in regularly about what's working and adjust our approach as needed. You won't be stuck doing something that isn't helping.
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Sex therapy is for:
Individuals of all genders and sexual orientations
Couples dealing with sexual dissatisfaction or relationship stress
People experiencing sexual trauma or dysfunction
Anyone exploring their sexuality, gender identity, or emotional intimacy
Whether you’re in a relationship or single, sex therapy can help you develop a healthier connection to your sexuality.
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Not at all. Sex therapy is for anyone who wants to better understand their sexuality, whether you’re sexually active, celibate, questioning, or somewhere in between. There’s no one “right” way to experience sex or intimacy.
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Not at all. Many people come to sex therapy as individuals to explore their own relationship with sex and intimacy. If you are in a relationship and want to include your partner(s), that’s absolutely welcome—but it’s never required.
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No. Sex therapy is strictly a talk-based, non-touch therapeutic process. There is no sexual or physical contact involved between the therapist and the client. Therapists provide a safe, professional space for discussion, education, and mental-emotional support.