Your Body on your Terms

Healing Your Sexuality After Sexual Trauma in Herndon, VA

Trauma-informed, AASECT-certified sex therapy for reconnecting with your body, your desire, and intimacy, at your own pace. In person in Herndon and online across Northern Virginia.

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What if safety in your body is something you could build?

even if you’ve never felt it before or it’s been too long, your body can learn it.

"I want to be close, but my body won't let me."

"I thought I'd be over this by now."

"Sometimes I'm not even there."

If any of these sound familiar, you're in the right place. Maybe you freeze, go numb, or leave your body when things get intimate. Maybe a certain touch, word, or smell sends you somewhere else before you can stop it. Maybe you avoid sex altogether, or go through with it just to get it over with. Or maybe it's the opposite: you find yourself seeking out sex often, sometimes in ways that leave you feeling empty, unsafe, or not quite there afterward, and you're not sure why. Maybe your partner doesn't know, or knows and doesn't know how to help. And underneath is the question you might not say out loud: will I ever get to enjoy this, or is that part of me just gone?

It isn't gone. Your body did exactly what it needed to do to protect you, and it's still doing it. Pulling away from sex and moving toward it can both be ways your body learned to cope. Healing isn't about forcing yourself past that protection. It's about helping your body learn, slowly and on your terms, that it's safe now. And you don't have to tell the whole story to start.

Sound like you?

Certain touches or moments send you somewhere else.

You've never told anyone, or you've told it so many times it feels far away.

You wonder whether pleasure is still possible for you.

You seek out sex when you don't really want it, then feel far away afterward.

You feel close to your partner everywhere except in bed.

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I’m here to help with…

  • Sex After Sexual Assault

  • Healing From Childhood Sexual Abuse

  • Dissociation During Sex

  • Triggers & Flashbacks During Intimacy

  • Sexual Avoidance or Hypersexuality After Trauma

Here’s what we’ll do together

Trauma-informed sex therapy can help your body feel like yours again.

We start with safety, not the story. You decide what we talk about and when. You never have to share details you're not ready to share, and you can slow down or stop at any time.

Then we get to know how your body protects you: the freeze, the numbness, the moments you leave. We treat those responses with respect, not judgment, because they kept you safe. We get curious about them together, gently, at your pace.

Little by little, you build ways to stay present, to notice when something feels like too much, and to say so. If you have a partner, we can talk about whether and how to bring them in, so they can support you without either of you guessing. When it would help, I also coordinate with trauma specialists and medical providers.

Over time, intimacy can start to feel like something you choose, on your terms, instead of something you have to brace through.

At the end of the day, I want you to know:

What happened to you is not who you are. Your body can be yours again.

What we’ll work on

Imagine a life where…

  • You notice the moment before you leave, and you can stay.

  • "Stop" and "slow down" feel easy to say, and they're respected.

  • Touch from someone you trust feels like comfort, not a warning.

  • Pleasure feels possible again, at your own pace.

  • Your history is part of your story, not the thing running it.

You've been protecting yourself for a long time.

You get to set the pace now.

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Offering trauma-informed sex therapy for healing after sexual trauma in person in Herndon, VA and online throughout Virginia. Serving clients in Herndon, Reston, Fairfax, McLean, Tysons, Vienna, Sterling, Chantilly, Ashburn, and across Northern Virginia.

Questions?

FAQs

  • No. We focus on what's happening in your body and your life now. You decide if, when, and how much of your history to share.

  • That's very common. Trauma can show up in intimacy years or decades later, often when a relationship starts to feel safe enough for it to surface.

  • You don't need to. We work with what your body and your life are telling you now.

  • Yes, and it's more common than people talk about. For some, seeking out sex is a way to feel in control, to numb something painful, or to reclaim their body. There's no judgment here. We look at what it's been doing for you, and what you actually want now.

  • Yes. I offer trauma-informed sex therapy in person in Herndon and online throughout Virginia, including Fairfax, Reston, Ashburn, and McLean.